How to Write a Love Letter

When the holidays at the end of the year are over, there seems to be a big break from holiday festivities.  Most people immediately look forward to the next holiday (when they get a day off work). For most people, that doesn’t come until Memorial Day. However, there are other important holidays between the first of the year and the beginning of summer that shouldn’t be missed. The first of those is Valentine’s Day. With Valentine’s Day coming up, it’s the perfect time to talk about how to write a love letter.


You may be like many other people and are intimidated at the thought of writing a love letter, but you don’t have to be and you shouldn’t let that stop you.

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You aren’t William Shakespeare and your partner already knows that.


The first step toward knowing how to write a love letter is to understand that they don’t want a love letter written by someone else. They want something from YOU. They want to know what YOU think and feel, and how YOU feel about them.


If you take the time to learn how to write a love letter, then sit down and write one, it will be the best Valentine’s Day present they ever received. Here are a few tips on how to write a love letter to help you get started.


Quality Paper


An important tip on how to write a love letter is to think about what you’re going to write on. It’s a special occasion and you shouldn’t just grab a notebook out of your junk drawer. Take a moment to go to the store and get some thick stock stationary, and it’s an added bonus if you can find something with roses or hearts on it. Remember, if you do this right, they are likely to keep your letter for a very long time so you definitely want to use paper that is going to last!  A scrap book store is a great place to find paper like this and you might even find some at the local office supply store.


Questions to Think About


After you get the paper, step two of how to write a love letter is to think about what you’re going to write. However, don’t start writing on your good paper right away. Use your regular paper as you work through exactly what you’re going to say. Don’t start writing on the good paper until you have a final version ready to go.


Here are some questions to get your thoughts flowing:

  • What is their greatest strength?
  • How do they make you feel?  What do they do to elicit those feelings?
  • How do they show you on a daily or weekly basis that they love you?
  • What is the most romantic thing they have ever done for you?
  • When or why did you fall in love with them?
  • What are your favorite memories?
  • How has your life changed since you met them?


As you think about these questions, you will likely be flooded with great ideas to share with them.  It’s also a good idea to be as specific as possible. You will probably reveal some new surprises of things they have done in the past that meant a great deal to you, that they didn’t know about.


How to Start


Now that you’ve got some good ideas on how to write a love letter, all that is left is finding a way to get started. It’s a good idea to start with a specific quality that you appreciate about them. It also really sets a tone if you can make the beginning of the letter be exclusive. Some examples of that sentiment are “I’ve never met anyone else who has ___” or “No one else has made me feel ____”.


Ghost Writer?


It may be tempting to skip learning how to write a love letter and just have someone else write it for you, but that would be a mistake. As we mentioned above, your partner doesn’t want a love letter from someone who is a better writer than you are. They want something that sounds like it came from YOU.


However, you should do one thing that “real” writers do when they write something. Use a good online spell checker. You can bet that if Shakespeare had an automated spell checker “back in the day”, he would have used it!